nothing than sexier
than being sexy
I don’t often post marriage proposals, but when I do, it’s pretty awesome.
Possible Reasons Why You Suck at Dating
1. You don’t offer your arm to the girl when walking together.
2. You lose all self-respect as a man and jump into “nice guy” mode.
3. You don’t know when and how to take it slow and chill. You don’t know how to make a comfortable context with a girl.
4. You also don’t know what to do when the going gets good.
5. You wait for her to give you good signs all the while she’s waiting for you to lead her.
6. You still focus on your own looks, clothes, money, and status too damn
much.
7. You severly underestimate the power of humor.
8. You don’t get this statement: The more you fail, the more you succeed. If you did understand, you wouldn’t mind failure.
9. You’re not patient at all. You believe being quick-tempered is manly, but it’s not.
10. You always let go of the right girl, and hold on to crazy bitches who forgot you exist.
11. You don’t know the power of body language, especially yours.
12. You don’t understand the need for a “distraction-ship” from time to time.
13. You’re always needy.
14. You’re always angry.
15. You really believe you will find your next girlfriend at a bar.
16. You don’t wake up everyday, look in the mirror, and yell, “Damn! I’m so good looking!”
Focus on Her Best Qualities
… and not her worst. Stop being critical and narcissistic.
It’s only the first date, for dating’s sake.
Practice Making Funny Faces in the Mirror
This is what you can do before a first date, especially if you’re nervous. For one, it loosens you up and helps relieve all the tense energy. For myself, I won’t be as concerned about maintaining a “cool, suave guy” image, because that’s not moi. The Dorky Danger comes out, which is like The Hulk, but with goofiness instead of anger. There’s a calm confidence about self-deprecating guys.
Also, what if the girl challenges you to a Funny Face Contest during this date? If you got your practice in, this will be child’s play.
Two If You’re Lucky
There is no such thing as an “okay” date. It’s either a good date or nothing. Or maybe I should say a great date or nothing.
Because, given how the first date went, girls will not entertain the idea of a similar “okay” second date or “okay” third date, let alone the idea of “I want to date this ‘okay’ guy and go on ‘okay’ dates with him several times and he will be my ‘okay’ boyfriend.”
As a guy, you don’t get three strikes, you only get one. Two if you’re lucky.
Stop Fooling Yourself, Fool
- Date
- Relationship
- Marriage
If you’re looking to simply date, don’t meet one person more than five times. You make your rounds, because that is your agenda. If you stick to this, there is no need to explain your behavior.
If you’re looking for a relationship, declare it on the third date. I like you and I want to keep seeing you, but I’m looking for something exclusive with commitment. I hope we go in that direction. Simple as that.
If you’re looking for marriage, also declare this on the third date. I like you and I don’t mean to scare you, but I’m ready to settle down and share my life with someone. I hope we can get to know each other with that in mind. Ballsy but mature.
If you’re not doing this, you’re fooling yourself, fool.
A Good Time to Ask Her Out
It sure wouldn’t be Monday morning.
You’re gonna sound like a loser who doesn’t go through the weekday grind like everyone else.
Save it ‘til tonight, young buck.
Live Alone
The excuses are endless for not living alone. You can’t afford it. You’re saving money. You’re still in school. You’re not fully employed. Your parents want you to stay home or they “need” you there. You need to look out for your siblings.
Or the worst excuse: You really, really like your roommates. Your place is an extension of a frat house or a sitcom, or you’ve been trying to make it that way.
Stop. Please.
Hardships such as unemployment or caring for a loved one aside, these excuses are all bull. If you’re a working man, you need to live like one, especially if you’re in your late twenties or beyond.
Why is living alone important to your dating life?
First, you obviously want to bring a girl over your place for… chess! Or you want to cook her a nice dinner and watch a movie in the comfort of your own pad, without worrying about non-existent roommates or non-local family.
However, there is something more subtle but still important. A girl might gauge you if you live alone or not. You get more MAN points if you look independent, well-adjusted, and responsible, which fits the description of a dude with an abode all to himself.
Additionally, you don’t look needy, because by living solo you yourself provide all your own needs. You seem settled down, like you’re ready to be in a relationship, one of quality and not a fling like you’re still in your party phase. You’re good.
All this infiltrates the mind of a girl without you even doing anything. You only answered her question, “Do you live alone?” Come to think of it, the majority of my first dates sneaked in this inquiry. That’s interesting.
Of course, this isn’t something you can change overnight. But if you want to improve the dating quality of your life, it is something to consider.
Q:This girl I am with saw a text and she read me saying "her shutting me out is hard to deal with" to her thinking i said that she is hard to deal with. So we kind of resolved that and we have been going okay. two weeks ago she said that the month since that text she hasn't felt the same about me. Then today she said she still feels that she can't really say she loves me like she did before that text. She said she doesn't really feel a connection right now. She said she feels lost about us.
She’s ending it with you. Mitigate your damages, execute your exit strategy, pick up that old hobby again, have a night out with the buddies, go on a road trip. Really, there’s nothing you can do for her or for the two of you. It’s over.
I run for the woods when I hear a girl says “lost” about anything. Whether she’s lost about herself, us being together, her feelings for me, etc, she basically means, “I don’t know what I’m doing and I won’t take responsibility for my actions.” She is a crime scene, and you have to walk away.
But them crazy, lost girls. Their lostness is alluring sometimes.
